Active Listening to Help Improve Relationship
Active listening refers to the process by which a person has that listening skill and is able to develop a form of communication that will allow him/her to reach out to another person by fully hearing what that person is trying to say. For a couple to achieve a long term relationship, it is vital that they communicate and listen in a meaningful way.
By letting the other person speak, this takes effort at your end to refrain yourself from doing these actions: arguing your case while the other person is stating his/her position, resist the urge to interrupt and cut off the other person speaking, and when you control yourself on these, you will be talking less, but you allow yourself to listen well on the other person’s explanation and, therefore, provide both a communication and listening avenue to you and the other person.
In a dialogue conversation, to be an active listener is to see yourself in the other person’s shoes, putting more importance on the other person’s emotional needs and, in this way, you will have the opportunity to understand the other person’s perspective.
Don’t make immediate conclusions
When you are in the middle of a dialogue with a person, try as much as possible to avoid making final judgments on the other person because this indicates that you already have a pre-existing belief about the person and that blocks you from doing an active listening and, therefore, you just have to avoid this negative thought by clearing your mind of this preconceived belief and instead focus more on positively resolving your relationship issues.
Take time to inquire
During the process of communication and listening to each other, when the other person has finished his/her position, it’s time to ask questions for clarification purposes, but don’t set the tone of asking questions like you are making accusations, and when the other person answers your questions, listen well to determine the truth of his/her statements.
Paraphrase what the person says
It’s not a negative way if you rephrase what you all heard from the other person because you are just confirming whether you heard it all right and by rephrasing what the other person says, you communicate back the points he/she has made objectively and, in doing so, you have understood clearly the other person’s point of view, which is still part of active listening. To become an effective communicator, you just have to learn to listen just as much as you need to learn to speak, so that whether you are in a one-on-one conversation or in a group meeting, focusing on what others are saying allows you to put yourself in a more effective position, because when you listen correctly, you also learn more.